We all have days we wish could erase. Yesterday one of my clients shared with me one such day…
“Jane” is a professor. She is also an independent woman, divorcee, mother and grandmother. Last minute she was asked to teach an extra class, and said yes, despite not having enough time to prepare because her computer crashed that AM. In the middle of lecturing, her brain went poof and she forgot what she was teaching. She was mortified. By the time our session rolled around in the same evening I could see the stress and embarrassment written all over her face because she had been rehashing the situation over and over. Yes, there are lessons to be learned. At the same time, it happened and nothing that can be done to turn back the hands of time, so there is no point in abusing ourselves by reliving the moment over and over and over again.
I remember one of my first talks and how disappointed I was in myself because it didn’t flow the way I had imagined it would. Needless to stay I couldn’t stand torturing myself by rehashing it in my mind so I decided to take a swim in the ocean and reflect on the lessons to be learned. I also did a meditation around releasing self-judgment and manifesting more opportunities to show myself I was capable of speaking from my heart instead of my head.
I led Jane through a meditation— clearing out the judgment and regret while supporting to reflect on the situation in a constructive way in order to learn the lessons that applied to her. Jane also needed a little reminder about how amazing of a woman she truly is. The coaching session was one of the most inspiring ones I’ve had in awhile because torturing ourselves about things in the past that we cannot change is something many of us can relate to.
Hiccups and roadblocks happen along our journey. They are absolutely normal, perfect, healthy, and beautiful because they provide us with opportunities for growth. We aren't married to the blunders of our past. When we accept that every morning is a new beginning— the first day of the rest of our lives— it’s easier to move forward, taking with us the lessons, and leaving behind the behaviors and things that are no longer serving. What matters is what we do today on this beautiful perfect day. Today we plant the seeds for a beautiful tomorrow. #bethebestyou