The Power of Sisterhood: Why you want it. How to find it. How to keep it.

I am a hermit. I love my alone time. I prefer to be alone much of the time because my solitude is so sweet. There are certain relationships, however, where the power of connection takes over. And more recently, the power of sisterhood has played a beautiful role in my life. 


This weekend I held a Sweetness Tea gathering inspired by a sister across the country. This female bonding time felt really good and loving! Also, every morning I share via text what I am most grateful for with a tribe of wonderful women. The power of this sisterhood has inspired this post and I trust it will inspire you to create and cultivate sisterhood in your life.


In the past, the idea of sisterhood sounded quite terrible to me to be honest. I’ve always considered myself to be different from most women. I don’t like to shop or gossip. I don’t watch popular TV shows or read celebrity magazines. But somehow, regardless of my unique ways, and through the many phases of life, I always managed to have few close female friends. 


As I evolved, a natural cleansing of old friends occurred with a welcoming of new ones. Friends tend to reflect our interests and ideas about life at any given time. 


The reason I’ve managed to connect with amazing women throughout my life is because I have been patient, discerning and always true to myself. 


Why you want sisterhood...

There’s a reason I always feel so good after female bonding time–studies have shown it is good for our health. Female bonding time fights against depression and encourages healthy hormone production. And the benefits exist far beyond health. 


Having supportive women in our lives to share the laughs and tears with makes this human experience that much more pleasurable. 

Through the changes we grow through in life, it’s nice to feel loved and supported–to know that we’re not in this alone. When we share our battles and victories with others it makes this rollercoaster ride that much more enjoyable. What’s even more incredible is the opportunity to play, co-create and work together. 

There will be times of challenges within the sisterhood too. Where we share not only what inspires us, but also what pains us. There will be tears and some disagreements as we grow to know and understand each other more deeply. But these times are worth it because our bonds become strengthened.


Having a sisterhood encourages us to stand in our power, live life, try new things and take chances.


I am not saying to go out and makes friends with every woman who crosses your path. Despite the billions of people in the world, it is quite obvious that we deeply connect with only a small percentage and rightly so because there are only so many hours in a day. 


It is about quality over quantity. It’s important to discern and connect with those we feel drawn to most–those who make us feel good and loved. 


So if you’re craving more sisterhood in your life or are seeking how to cultivate sisterhood with the amazing women already in your life try these tips below: 


How do you go about finding soul sisters?

  • Do what you love and you’ll find the people you love. 
  • Be true to you. Never fake it. This will attract your tribe to you. 
  • Be patient. Only spend time with those you feel really connected to, otherwise your time is taken and you are missing opportunities to meet your tribe. Remember, those you seek are seeking you. 
  • Continue to work on yourself. We attract what we are–be the person you wish to meet. Meditate, exercise, eat healthy–self care brightens our light.
  • Sign up for retreats, courses and activities that empower and inspire you! Surely there will be women you connect with at events that inspire you!


How do you know you’ve found a soul sister?

  • There is generally a connection at first sight. The moment you met or saw her you felt like you’ve known her many lifetimes. 
  • You desire to be near each other and connect, it doesn’t matter where you are or what you’re doing. 
  • You share everything with each other and know your sister will be honest, compassionate and transparent with all areas of life. 
  • You just get each other. No matter the differences between you both, you understand each other and wish only the best for each other. 

How to cultivate the sisterhood...

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  • Make the effort to stay in touch by asking questions about happenings in their life–text, phone calls, lunch or however you enjoy spending time together. 
  • Have fun together! Go on a hike or go dancing. Do what you love with the people you love. 
  • Text your morning gratitude practice to your soul sisters. Sharing what you are most grateful for each day keeps the sisterhood up to date despite busy schedules, and also facilitates a space of love and gratitude. 
  • Skype or Facetime! If you can’t find time to meet for lunch or if you live across the country, this is the perfect way to keep the connection.  
  • Create a monthly gathering. Despite busy schedules, surely we can find time to get together. I’ve written about Goddess Circle in the past–may it inspire you to create intentional time together. 

Also, if you’re looking to attract more soul sisters into your life, Luna, one of the goddesses who attended the Sweetness Tea party created a Female Muse Mastermind where I am one of the mentors. Join other women for this 6 month journey to birthing your heartfelt dream. Learn more about it here.

If you already have an amazing sisterhood in your life, we would love to hear about the support and practices within your tribe. Share the love by leaving your comments in the box below.